Men, Please don’t kill yourself.

Fifteen minutes after hanging up the phone, he killed himself. Neither his family nor his friends saw it coming. I didn’t even see it coming, and he was my best friend. He didn’t talk about his feelings with me. He didn’t ask for help, and I’m still asking myself everyday; if he had just talked to me, maybe he would be still here with me today.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), someone around the globe commits suicide every 40 seconds. In the year 2000, 815,000 people lost their lives to suicide — more than double the number of people who die as a direct result of armed conflict every year (306,600). For people between the ages of 15 and 44, suicide is the fourth leading cause of death and the sixth leading cause of disability and infirmity worldwide. @CMHAToronto

We have a problem, we are losing our men and we are doing nothing to change it. Suicide rates for men continue to increase, while those for women have decreased in recent years.

 Statistical research reveals that suicide claims the lives of nearly 3000 Canadian men each year. Suicide is the third most common death reported to the Manitoba Office of the Chief Medical Examiner (OCME). ‪@SunNewsNetwork

 The reasons why men are more likely to commit suicide than women are complex and not yet well understood. There are some clues that may help us understand.

  •  For men, it is difficult to say ‘I need help’. It is assumed that men are strong. It is common for men to feel uncomfortable discussing their problems.This makes them more vulnerable.

  • Social isolation. Everyone needs some alone time, but it is also important to be involved with a community. People who tend to isolate themselves from social circles are less likely to talk about their issues. ( Why do more Men Commit Suicide by @porszag)

  • Men are less likely to recognize that they are depressed or simply under stress.

  • When men are suffering, they are less likely to seek medical advice. When they do consult a doctor, it is most likely to address physical symptoms (eg, stomach aches). Mental health issues are far more likely to be ignored.

  • Bad preconception about mental illness. Research has shown that a large majority of those who attempt suicide suffer from mental illness. Two-thirds of people who commit suicide are affected by a depressive disorder and 20% by alcoholism. @helpguideorg

“Mental illness needs to be talked about not only when a person dies, but all the time. It does not just need to be discussed among those affected by mental illness, but by everyone! People need to be made aware that mental illness is something that can be treated, what to look for in others, where they can get help, that there is hope and recovery, and there is no shame in getting help”.@Bipolar_Bandit

I believe the main reason there are more suicides amongst men is because of the societal struggle for equality between men and women. With the increasing power of women in society, the needs of men have been somewhat neglected.

*Don´t be afraid of being sensitive and vulnerable.
*Don´t be afraid to feel.
*Avoid isolating yourself by talking to someone.
*Don´t be afraid to seek help. Suicide and Silence by @OwenJones84

How to help:
Educational campaigns encouraging men to seek assistance rather than suffer in silence.

1- The Movember Foundation @MovemberCA, with the power of the moustache, has become a truly global movement that is changing the face of men’s health.

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2- Manitoba Suicide Line

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3- Crisis Centres Serving Manitoba 

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What would you do if your family member, friend or loved one has suicidal thought ? What would you say? Would you know what to do?

  • Do not leave them alone.
  • Encourage your loved one to seek immediate help from a medical professional.
  • Prevent any access this person may have to a gun or any other object that can be used as a weapon against themselves, including medications.

Most importantly, BE THEIR FRIEND, talk with them, show them how much you love them, and how important they are to you. A simple gesture of love could return their will to live.

If you are someone who has contemplated or attempted suicide, I urge you to talk about it. There is help available. Remember you are not alone and we need you!

Commenting and Sharing this post with your friends on social media such as Facebook, you would be encouraging thousand of people about it.  It’s a message worth spreading.

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3 thoughts on “Men, Please don’t kill yourself.

  1. Great post, as always.

    I have gone through suicide prevention training and the one thing you SHOULD ask someone if you think they are suicidal is: “Are you going to kill yourself?” “Are you suicidal?” “Do you have a plan?”
    Often people who are thinking about it will tell you – its a sense of relief for them that someone finally asked the question they had been contemplating for so long. But don’t beat around the bush and jokingly say “hey, you’re not gonna kill yourself are ya?” because that puts light in the situation and the person will certainly say no.

    Just a tip for those reading.


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